Holding the door open

Isn’t it just being polite?

Isn’t it just plain courtesy?

Isn’t it just the basic of manners?

Well apparently not! as twice this morning I had a door let go in my face. One woman actually saw me coming and let the door go just as I got there…I mean come on didn’t your parents teach you to be considerate!

In the Victorian era it was fairly straightforward, well I say that but learning the etiquette and manners of the age must’ve been a bit of a task…there does seem to of been much but some still survive such as holding the door open.

I will hold the door open for anyone, primarily it is for the Lady and knowing how to treat here, it is not being sexist but being polite.

Nowadays some gentlemen continue the social etiquette for how to treat a lady, while others require prompting.

Learning how to behave like a gentleman is easy to learn with some coaching and practice and here’s some top tips!

Remember that when you both enter a restaurant or other public venue, take the lead by opening the door before she approaches it and allowing her to walk through first. make sure you then follow her inside.

Pull the chair out from beneath the table for her and gesture for her to take a seat. Once your lady is seated, help her push the chair closer to the table.

Proffer her your hand to help your lady make it successfully up and down steps or hills especially if she is not wearing the appropriate footwear. If she looks cold or it is raining offer you coat.

You will of course ask how she is doing, how work went, how she feels and what she is thinking about, that way you can gauge how the evening should run.

Always offer your seat on a crowded public bus or train.

With these simple steps you will feel better about yourself and please people around you.



Why Britain Should mind its Ps and Qs

Manners maketh man!

I found this on the BBC today, some thoughts on the etiquette and manners which appear to have all but disappeared. An example from only a few days ago…I was on a bus, some males in their late teens made a scrum on to the bus and one of them didn’t pay. The driver wouldn’t move the bus until they got off…so we sat for about 20 mins, eventually a heavily pregnant lady offered to pay but the driver wouldn’t accept, one male got off but he still wouldn’t move eventually everyone was telling him to get off and he did but that in my opinion is a typical snapshot of the lack of thought, etiquette and manners we can expect today…or is it!

“There is just incredible incivility in this country… people are rude to each other… public discourse is so bad mannered… we have come to assume and resign ourselves to the fact that civility is on a permanent and inevitable downward slide.”

So said David Cameron in 2007, echoing a widespread public view that Britain’s behaviour was indicative of a country careering headlong for hell in a handcart.

I do tend to agree, it does appear that people are ruder, short-tempered, impatient, the usual please and thank you seem to have disappeared.

Indeed a BBC poll a few months later suggested 83% of people thought the UK was suffering moral decline.

However the stand out points are the rudeness and lack of social skills but how often do we consider politeness and recall that?

But now along comes the Young Foundation, a social science think-tank, with a report that says such views are not only bunkum but dangerously counter-productive bunkum. Britain might see itself as rudeness central but when you ask about personal experience, sizeable majorities say they get treated with consideration and respect. Concerns about anti-social behaviour appear to be falling and when asked what is good about living in Britain, among the top answers are tolerance and politeness.

“Generalisations about declining standards of civility are inaccurate and problematic”, say the researchers. “While there are flashpoints of incivility, these tend to be contained to certain places or certain times. But in general Britain remains a well-mannered and courteous country. We still compare favourably to Continue reading